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Dear healthwellness82@gmail.com, If you daydream at work about working elsewhere, corporate coach Beth Weissenberger, COO of The Handel Group in New York City, knows what might be holding you back from actually going for that dream. She shares a six-step plan -- and a simple, on-the-spot mental exercise -- that can immediately get you closer to what you imagine you’d really like to do. It may have been some time since you rode in a golf cart -- but if you’re headed to a resort, an amusement park, a national park, a large shopping complex or anywhere else that these cute little carts are the convenient way to get around, please read these four safety secrets from Lara McKenzie, PhD, of the College of Medicine at The Ohio State University. Golf carts can be more dangerous for riders than most people realize. All the best,  Jessica Kent Editor BottomLineSecrets.com Don’t forget to check out Bottom Line President Marjory Abrams’ latest blog posting: Complementary Cancer Care. And don’t forget to share your thoughts on the blog with Margie.  Alarming News About Your Retirement It's official, Social Security is heading for broke! But that doesn't mean you should miss out on the retirement you deserve... Most Americans know nothing about this, but a small, savvy group of retirees have been collecting from this other Government backed "pension program" since 1972! Now income specialist Jim Nelson shows how you could too in a brand new presentation. Fight Your Inner Chicken Beth Weissenberger We all have excuses for why we have not yet achieved our goals... and why it is not worth making the changes required to pursue our goals now. "It’s too hard"... "too frightening"... or "just not the right time." We take the safer, easier way out whether that means keeping our current job rather than trying something different that we would rather do... keeping quiet rather than standing up for ourselves... or continuing to indulge in bad habits rather than disciplining ourselves to change behaviors, such as overeating or not exercising. According to principles taught by the executive-coaching Handel Group, these excuses come from our "inner chicken," that voice in our head that keeps us from taking a challenging path. We accept our inner chicken’s excuses as valid, even when they are clearly flawed, because believing that the easy course is the proper course is less painful than admitting that we are deeply and perhaps irrationally afraid of the alternative. To overcome your inner chicken...
Thinking about your goals lures your inner chicken from its pen to offer up excuses. Write down your chicken’s excuses. Become familiar with them. This familiarity will make it easier to see through them later. Example: When a middle manager who attended one of our seminars thought about his professional goals, his inner chicken warned him that his family life was too busy for him to devote more time to his career... and the economy was too iffy to take professional chances. When his boss asked if he would like to lead an important presentation, the manager’s first thoughts were that he was too busy and that failing at this assignment could cost him his job at a time when new jobs were scarce. But because he learned that it was his inner chicken talking, he identified his excuses as fear responses. He figured out how he could schedule his time so that he could make the project a priority without neglecting his family. He also reminded himself that, in a tough job market, not taking a chance could be as risky as taking one.
If an excuse is medical in nature, ask your doctor whether it is valid... if it is professional, ask a career coach, business consultant or mentor... if it is about a relationship, speak with a marriage counselor or pastoral counselor. If this expert agrees that your excuse is valid, that does not free you from pursuing the goal -- it simply means that you should pursue it via a different route. Example: Your goal is to lose 50 pounds, but your inner chicken warns you that jogging may damage your knees. If a doctor agrees, give up jogging -- but replace it with biking or swimming. If you lack the time or money to consult an expert, ask a friend or family member to evaluate the excuse -- but choose this evaluator carefully. Family and friends tend to let us get away with our excuses because they want to tell us what we want to hear... or because their own inner chickens make similar excuses. Your evaluator must be both savvy enough to see through flawed excuses and plainspoken enough to tell you difficult truths. If you find an effective evaluator, ask this person to serve this role for you on an ongoing basis. Send him/her a weekly e-mail summarizing your goals, the steps you have taken to pursue them and your excuses for not doing more. Request an honest critique.
A life without risk is a life without excitement and adventure... without feelings of accomplishment... and without any hope of fulfilling our dreams. Reflect upon these costs whenever you’re tempted to choose the comfortable path. Our greatest happiness usually is found on the other side of fear. Also, consider that facing fears is good practice. Like it or not, events outside of our control force us out of our comfort zone eventually. We’ll be better able to cope with these situations if we previously have taken ourselves out of this comfort zone. Example: Those who have remained in one job their whole career for fear of change are likely to have more trouble rebounding from a layoff than those who have been through the job-hunting process several times before.
The secret to overcoming an inner chicken’s nonconfrontational nature is to learn how to stage successful confrontations. Five keys... Consider the matter from the opposite side before speaking up. Does this person have a good reason for doing whatever is annoying you? Are you doing anything that annoys this person? Wait until this person is alone before raising the subject. People tend to become embarrassed and defensive when confronted in a group. Ask for "permission" to raise a difficult issue before voicing your complaint. "I have something difficult to say. Is it okay with you if I say it?" Present your complaint as something that could be done differently, not as a matter of right and wrong. Assume that this person does not realize that he/she is causing offense. Avoid any hint of righteousness or blame. Remember that this is all your opinion and from your point of view.
It’s best to face fears that bring you closer to your goals, but facing any fear at least teaches you that you can stand up to your inner chicken. Facing one fear each day eliminates the paralysis of trying to face all of your fears at once. After you become good at addressing small fears, you can work up to larger issues. Helpful: Keep a list of fears and the actions you could take to confront them. That will make it harder for your inner chicken to convince you to take a day off from facing fears.
Bottom Line/Personal interviewed Beth Weissenberger, cofounder and COO of The Handel Group, a corporate, private and educational coaching company based in New York City. The Handel Group’s corporate clients include Sony BMG and New York University School of Medicine. www.HandelGroup.com  Golf Cart Injuries Lara McKenzie, PhD Golf cart injuries more than doubled from 1990 to 2006? Reasons: The carts are faster today than they used to be... often are used for transportation at sporting events, hospitals, airports, national parks and more... and sometimes are used in ways for which they were not built -- for example, on public roadways. Self-defense: Operate golf carts at reasonable speeds... brake slowly... passengers should be at least six years old, and operators should be at least 16 years old. Bottom Line/Personal interviewed Lara McKenzie, PhD, assistant professor, department of pediatrics, College of Medicine, The Ohio State University, Columbus, and senior author of a study of golf cart injuries, published in American Journal of Preventive Medicine. Delicious 'Wonder Drug' for High Blood Pressure Praised by Harvard Researchers Important: Help your friends get much more out of life -- forward this E-letter to them. Better: Send it to many friends and your whole family. This is a free weekly e-mail service of BottomLineSecrets.com and Boardroom Inc. Boardroom Inc. 281 Tresser Boulevard Stamford, CT 06901-3229 ATTN: Web Team You received this e-mail because you have requested it. You are on the mailing list as healthwellness82@gmail.com. Or... a friend forwarded it to you. Disclaimer: Bottom Line Secrets publishes the opinions of expert authorities in many fields. But the use of these opinions is no substitute for legal, accounting, investment, medical and other professional services to suit your specific personal needs. Always consult a competent professional for answers to your specific questions. Bottom Line Secrets is a registered trademark of Boardroom Inc. Subscribe | Unsubscribe | Update My E-mail Preferences Change My E-mail Address | Contact Us | Privacy Policy Copyright (c) 2011 by Boardroom Inc. |
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