Erase Tumors in 2 Months

Don't miss any Bottom Line Secrets. Add our address, bottomlinesecrets@ebls.bottomlinesecrets.com, to your Address Book or Safe List. Learn how here. February 20, 2011 Erase Tumors in 2 Months Everything's Fine Marge Couldn't Remember Her Phone Number... But Now Her Brain Is 20 Years Younger... Trendy Curved Sole Sneakers: Help or Hype? New INSTANT Cure for Extra High Cholesterol -- Cholesterol Drops 100 Points or More Dear healthwellness82@gmail.com, How many times have you told your partner that the sex was satisfying... the new shoes were on sale... or the dinner was delicious, just to keep peace in the relationship? The problem is, this kind of lying can eventually destroy the trust in a relationship. Psychologist Dory Hollander, author of 101 Lies Men Tell Women -- And Why Women Believe Them, offers rare insight into the six most common lies that men (and women) tell their partners -- and shares the secret for tactful truth-telling that won’t hurt feelings. In this economy, it’s hard to justify splurging on a pair of $200 shoes even if they’re comfortable to walk in -- but what if they have the added benefit of burning extra calories? Certified marathon coach and walking expert Wendy Bumgardner reveals the surprising truth about that claim, and tells about the very common health complaint those splurge-worthy shoes can help fix, too!. All the best, Jessica Kent Editor BottomLineSecrets.com Erase Tumors in 2 Months "Within two months, every tumor had shrunk, dried up and fallen off," said Tom to Dr. Gary Null about the miraculous disappearance of his rapidly spreading cancer. Tom had already gone through surgery once for skin cancer on his forehead. Unfortunately, his skin cancer was melanoma. Just 10 days after the operation, the cancer was back with a vengeance. It reappeared on his forehead, and quickly spread to his arm, upper body and chest. Four doctors all agreed: There was nothing they could do to cure this cancer. They all still wanted to operate. But Tom wanted to live -- not just get sliced up. Read on to learn what Tom did to save his life... Everything's Fine Dory Hollander, PhD WiseWorkplaces In new relationships, partners often lie to hide their flaws and to seem more desirable to potential mates. Surprisingly, lies are just as common in long-term relationships -- though the reasons for the lies change. Partners in lasting relationships lie because lying can be easier than explaining the truth... can delay difficult conversations... can give cover and freedom from a partner’s ongoing scrutiny... and can protect partners’ feelings. Example: A woman tells her husband that his public gaff went unnoticed, though it didn’t, to protect his feelings. A white lie now and then won’t hurt a relationship, but lying on a regular basis can undermine a relationship. Lying can become so effective in avoiding real discussions of sensitive issues that it creates a harmful détente, leading to false harmony. If a couple truly desires closeness, learning to sensitively and respectfully discuss uncomfortable truths together is a far better bet than lies. Here are the most common lies in long-term relationships and suggestions on how to respond... LIES MEN TELL WOMEN Women in long-term relationships often let their partners’ lies slide to avoid confrontation and create an argument-free zone. Unfortunately, failing to confront a partner’s dishonesty gives the partner tacit permission to continue the deception. Among the lies that men in long-term relationships often tell, and how their partners might respond... "Everything’s fine." Men tell their partners that "everything’s fine" when they would rather put up with an annoyance or serious issue than upset the relationship’s peace and get roped into a complicated emotional conversation. Unfortunately, partners feel less close when they don’t discuss their problems, leading to détente, not peace, and the relationship suffers. Response: If you do not believe your partner’s claim that everything is fine, wait a bit or until the next day to raise the issue in a calm manner. Tell him that you’ve been thinking over what he said and have a gut feeling that everything is not fine. If he mentions a small issue that you suspect is not the real problem, deal with that rather than trying to get at the bigger problem right then. Establish a solid baseline for respectful sharing of concerns that clears the way for his disclosing any larger problems later. "I have our finances under control." Society judges men by their ability to provide for their families. Men sometimes lie out of shame when they have mismanaged finances or suffered other financial or career setbacks. Response: Start by getting the financial facts. Check account statements. If you can’t find the statements, contact banks, credit card issuers and investment companies where you have joint accounts. If the accounts are in his name only, ask your partner specifically to share the details of the family finances. If he dismisses your request by saying that you wouldn’t understand, tell him that you want to become more knowledgeable about your finances and ask him to help you understand. If you find any reason to believe that he’s lying about your financial situation, confront him -- but avoid the temptation to get angry. Anger, even justified, shuts down communication. If he is ashamed already, adding to his shame won’t help you get to the truth. If he continues to insist that your financial position is secure, insist that he back this up with documentation. "I don’t need to see a doctor." Men lie about health problems because they don’t want to confront their increasing age, mortality and the fact that they cannot solve all of their problems on their own. Response: Tell him that you are worried about him and want him to get a checkup. Acknowledge his position. "You’re probably right, but I care about you and want us both to stay in good health. I would appreciate it if you would see a doctor, even though you don’t think you need to. I am happy to make the appointment." "That dress doesn’t make you look fat." Men lie when women ask about their appearance because they have learned that honest but unflattering statements such as, "You could stand to lose a little weight," create disharmony. Response: When a woman truly wants an honest answer about her appearance, she might phrase the question as an either/or rather than a yes/no choice. Example: "Which dress do I look better in -- the red one or the blue one?" rather than, "Do I look fat in this dress?" Note to men: This is not the no-win situation that men think it is. There are ways besides lying to protect her feelings without spoiling a perfectly fine dinner or weekend. First, understand that questions about appearance may be double-edged. Sure, she wants the truth, but even more, she wants to know that you think she looks great. While this seems tricky, it’s not hard. A warm and positive response, such as, "You know, I love the sexy way you look in the dress that you wore last weekend," gets the point across. LIES WOMEN TELL MEN Men aren’t the only ones who lie in long-term relationships. Among the lies that women often tell their partners and how their partners might respond... "Everything’s fine." Women tell this lie, too -- but often for different reasons than men. A woman likely really wants to discuss what’s wrong but feels so disconnected from her partner that she doesn’t believe he will be receptive or that constructive dialog is possible. Response: If you think that her "everything’s fine" is untrue, you can score big relationship points simply by encouraging a conversation. Say, "I know I don’t always express it well, but I care about you very deeply. I can tell that something’s wrong -- and I would like to know more about what’s bothering you." Most women will respond very positively to this suggestion. Do be prepared to have an honest discussion that takes time and emotional investment. "I bought it on sale." Many women lie to their partners about spending. This may sound trivial, but the reasons behind it are not. A woman may say that she got things on sale because she feels embarrassed about spending money on nonessentials for herself. Not feeling entitled to pay full price or self-indulgence, she hides it. She might claim to be staying within a budget when she is not. Or her spending may be addictive and out of control. Response: First seek understanding about why your partner lies about spending. Then make finances a joint project where you both get a realistic view of your resources. Establish this as a regular yearly or quarterly process. If her spending is in line with your joint resources, assure her that there is no reason to hide her expenditures from you and that you respect her judgment. If more serious spending issues emerge, engage her in a frank but nonaccusatory discussion of the family’s budget. Set limits together. Let her know that if she seriously overspends, that’s something to frankly discuss, not lie about, and that you will do likewise. "That was great for me." Women in relationships often claim to be satisfied by sex when they are not. They fear that admitting the truth will hurt their partners’ feelings. Unfortunately, if a woman continues this silent dissatisfaction, the clueless partner will keep doing what he’s doing. Over time, neither will be satisfied and their sex life will become perfunctory, with neither partner understanding what happened or feeling close enough to discuss it. Partners may seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere, leading to more damaging lies about affairs and cover-ups. Response: Don’t insist that she tell you the truth about her level of satisfaction with sex -- that often leads to more lies, hurt feelings or conflict. Instead, have a sexy talk about sex. Ask what would be exciting to try that’s different from what you do now. Watch a sexy movie, then talk about both your responses. Together, make a plan and try it out. "I’m too tired for sex." This could be the truth -- but if she offers this excuse with increasing regularity, it’s possible that her lack of desire for physical intimacy with you could be a reflection of an increasing distance in the relationship...not feeling attractive... a health issue... or a relationship with someone else. Response: Seek opportunities to be closer and more loving with her. Have conversations about things other than problems and responsibilities. Find time to do the things that she enjoys. Tell her what you love about her body, her movements, her smile. If a few weeks of this fails to lead to increased physical intimacy, ask her to tell you what needs to change so that you can work together to find a solution. Honest communication goes to the heart of things to create the intimacy that both partners need in all areas of their life together. Bottom Line/Personal interviewed Dory Hollander, PhD, a psychologist with offices in St. Louis, Missouri, and Arlington, Virginia. She is founder of WiseWorkplaces, a management consulting company, and author of 101 Lies Men Tell Women -- And Why Women Believe Them (Harper). www.WiseWorkplaces.com Marge Couldn't Remember Her Phone Number... But Now Her Brain Is 20 Years Younger... "I used to have a great memory," Marge told Dr. Ray Sahelian. "All my life I've worked with numbers," this former bookkeeper explained... "But now I can't remember simple phone numbers... it's so frustrating!" She'd lose things right after she put them down -- it was demoralizing. She was only 71, but she felt like a useless antique. Other doctors might have shrugged and said, "Sorry Marge, you're getting old... " But Dr. Ray Sahelian reversed her frightening decline almost immediately. Soon Marge's memory picked up dramatically, and she was focused all day. Marge now says she hasn't thought so clearly in 20 years... Learn more... Answers to Your Questions from Bottom Line Experts Q: I have seen advertisements for the new walking shoes with curved soles that claim to burn more calories, tone muscles and relieve back pain. Are they any good? A: These shoes will help some people, but they are not for everyone. Skechers Shape-Ups and Chung Shi shoes can provide a greater range of motion while walking, exercising muscles on both sides of the legs, burning more calories and toning muscles. Some people say that the shoes have cured their back pain -- but others say that they have caused it. If you are considering these shoes, which cost $100 to $250, plan to spend time getting used to them. Start out by wearing them for about five minutes of activity and build up gradually. Do not put them on and immediately do your normal walking routine. Be especially cautious if you have biomechanical issues, such as a long-standing knee injury or scoliosis. Buy only from a store with a liberal return policy in case you develop aches, pains or backaches, and only wear the shoes indoors until you are sure that you want to keep them. Our inside source: Wendy Bumgardner, certified marathon coach and walking expert for About.com, based in Vancouver, Washington. She has walked seven marathons and thousands of miles. New INSTANT Cure for Extra High Cholesterol -- Cholesterol Drops 100 Points or More Do you have stubborn high cholesterol? Would you love to get your count under control without having to depend on expensive prescription drugs? Changing your diet can help, of course. But here’s something better. This breakthrough new therapy instantly filters excess cholesterol from your body. And it’s completely safe. This new therapy takes only a matter of minutes and lowers unhealthy cholesterol like no drug known to science. At the same time, it triggers a reduction in C-reactive protein and fibrinogen, substances that can increase the risk for blood clots. Patients who receive the therapy report a rapid reduction in cardiovascular symptoms such as angina. Learn more... Important: Help your friends get much more out of life -- forward this E-letter to them. Better: Send it to many friends and your whole family. This is a free weekly e-mail service of BottomLineSecrets.com and Boardroom Inc. Boardroom Inc. 281 Tresser Boulevard Stamford, CT 06901-3229 ATTN: Web Team You received this e-mail because you have requested it. You are on the mailing list as healthwellness82@gmail.com. Or... a friend forwarded it to you. Disclaimer: Bottom Line Secrets publishes the opinions of expert authorities in many fields. But the use of these opinions is no substitute for legal, accounting, investment, medical and other professional services to suit your specific personal needs. Always consult a competent professional for answers to your specific questions. Bottom Line Secrets is a registered trademark of Boardroom Inc. Subscribe |  Unsubscribe | Update My E-mail Preferences Change My E-mail Address | Contact Us | Privacy Policy Copyright (c) 2011 by Boardroom Inc.